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so not ready for class in the morning
Sunday. 8.28.11 10:28 pm
I'm sitting at my computer trying to look over notes and such for my anatomy class in the morning and I really can not focus. My brain is going crazy.

So alot has happened since last time............

I got a job (yay money) lol I actually work at a gun shop (go figure). It is pretty cool, there are tons of nice people who work there and the people that come in are all really cool. The boyfriend also got a job (yay him!) and with that and us both going to school its kinda difficult to find time to just spend with each other. We are making it work tho.

Mom and I kinda got into an argument tonight. So basically we were talking about how long people should be together before they should get married. She said it really depends upon the couple. I agree with her about that. But I still believe that there should be a minimum of three years (and a year of those living together) before a couple can really say they are ready to get married. Its fine if you disagree with me but listen to my point first. When you know someone for the first year all their "shit" (shit= small annoying crap that will drive you crazy or their weird little habits and bad things they do) will start to appear a little. I think it really takes about two years (at least) to get all of your "shit" on the table. Then you live together and find out how it is to see that person day in and day out. I think that a minimum of three years dating and being with someone is a good amount of time to start considering marriage. Now don't get me wrong, if you were with your husband for a few months or whatever and got married and are together and the happiest ever, I am very happy for you. The only thing is I have seen multiple marriages and relationships that have escalated too quickly with the couple really not knowing the other person, and it ends up in divorce and sadness and failure. I also think that this can be avoided if the people of our day could take marriage a little bit more serious. If it cost like twenty thousand dollars for people to even file for a divorce, I think people would take marriage a lot more seriously


just my opinion


night!
2 Comments.


I think marriage failure is partially due to not knowing the person enough and partially due to not being willing to compromise/work things out.

Besides that, our standards for marriage have also changed. Way back when, people who got married weren't necessarily best friends or perfect matches. They were just people who got together to start a family and support each other (or they were physically attracted to one another, from what I can tell...). Nowadays we have nigh impossibly high standards, and we want someone who is compatible with us on levels people didn't even used to think about.

So I kind of agree with you and kind of disagree. I don't think people necessarily need to live together before they get married, but I do think they should take awhile to consider how much of a commitment marriage is.

Then again, since marriage isn't as important as it used to be, I guess it doesn't really matter if some people live together and then drop their partner because they have horrible bathroom habits or something...
» randomjunk on 2011-08-29 01:32:22

Studies show that living together before marriage actually increases the chance of divorce--by quite a lot! I feel like you're right, though, in that people don't take marriage seriously enough, anymore. Congrats on the job!
» Unicornasaurus on 2011-08-29 11:51:42

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